How to reduce stress and prevent depression?

It’s so difficult to describe depression to someone who’s never been there, because it’s not sadness. I know sadness. Sadness is to cry and to feel. But it’s that cold absence of feeling — that really hollowed-out feeling.”

J.K. Rowling

Depression can affect the quality of life and satisfaction of the people living with depression and life alteration. It’s also a fairly common condition. Every year, approximately 15 million Americans are affected by anxiety and depression, according to the Anxiety and Depression Association of America. Even if you’ve had a previous episode of depression, it may be possible to prevent it in some cases. To prevent or avoid depression, you can implement a variety of lifestyle changes and stress management techniques. Certain triggers can cause us to go through depressive episodes. While everyone’s triggers are different, these are some of the best techniques for preventing or avoiding depression relapse.

If you don’t make time for exercise, you’ll probably have to make time for illness.”

Robin Sharma

First, we should regularly exercise. Regular exercise is one of the best things for your mental health you can do. According to the Mayo Clinic, exercise can be used in several key ways to treat and prevent depression because it has many benefits such as it increases the temperature of your body, which can calm the central nervous system, it releases products that can boost mood, such as endorphins and it reduces chemicals that can exacerbate depression in the immune system.

Every kind of physical practice can contribute to the treatment of depression, but exercise regularly is best. Join a sports team or a study (such as yoga or kickboxing), where you are active as well as part of a community. Instead of the lift, take the stairs. Make it a habit and this is the best way to maintain the fitness level that prevents depression most effectively.

If any of the great avatars – Buddha, Jesus, Krishna, Mohammed – were present in human form on this planet today, what would they be doing? I doubt they would be posting selfies

Anthon St. Maarten

Next, reducing the time spending on social media. Research has shown that Trusted Source can cause or contribute to depression and low self esteem through increased use of the social media. Social media can be addictive and it is important to keep in touch with family, friends and even coworkers. This is how we plan to invite and share big news. Limiting time in social media can help prevent depression.

You can do this by removing some social applications from your phone using web blocking extensions which allow you to use specific sites only for a predetermined time and only to social media to prevent depression and by avoiding logging on a few occasions a day. For example, I feel more peaceful and relaxing when I am away from social media which will make us to compare our lives with others.

My mother used to tell me that when push comes to shove, you always know who to turn to. That being a family isn’t a social construct but an instinct.

Jodi Picoult

Thirdly, establish strong links with trustworthy close circles. It is important for our mental health to have a strong support and active social life. Research has shown that trustworthy sources can protect them from depression by even “sufficient” social support.

Make sure you connect with your friends and family regularly, even though your lives are busy. You can all help to build new relationships by attending social events and by finding new hobbies to meet new people. When u limit your social circle and surround yourself  with those who will lift up you in life, your self esteem and confidence  will boost . These will lead u to a successful  pathway.

When people have no choice, life is almost unbearable … But as the number of choices keeps growing, negative aspects of having a multitude of options begin to appear … the negatives escalate until we become overloaded. At this point, choice no longer liberates, but debilitates.

Barry Schwartz in Paradox of Choices

Next, Make daily choices minimized. Have you ever entered a theme park and been overwhelmed by the first thing you want to do? Researchers believe that too many options can actually lead to major stress, which can lead to depression. The author of the book “The Paradox of Choice,” the psychologist Barry Schwartz describes research that shows that those who seek the best option — “maximisers,” face greater depression rates when faced with too many choices. All of us have a lot of options in our lives. What should we wear for breakfast, and should we buy yogurt, cheese, bagels, English muffins, or sausage? The stress of making the right or wrong decision has been linked to depression. Simplify stuff if making decisions stresses you out.

Learn to make decisions more efficiently, will the number of decisions you’ll have to make during the week, schedule your clothes, and have your meals prepared and ready to go, for example.

“Early to rise, early to bed, makes a man healthy, wealthy, and dead.”

James Thurber, American Cartoonist

“When the going gets tough, the tough take a nap.”

Tom Hodgkinson, British Writer

Furthermore, get plenty of rest is the key. Both mental and physical wellbeing require enough high-quality sleep. According to the National Sleep Foundation, people who suffer from insomnia are ten times more likely to experience depression than those who sleep well. You can’t look at any screens for two hours before bed (including your phone!) if you want to sleep better. Aside from that, meditate before going to bed, sleep on a supportive mattress, and avoid caffeine after 12 p.m. Sleep will help people with their issues, and a good night’s sleep can make you feel better. Deep slumber provides u deep solution when u wake up the next morning.

“If you don’t build your dream, someone else will hire you to help them build theirs.”

Dhirubhai Ambani, founder, Reliance Industries

Business opportunities are like buses, there’s always another one coming.” – Richard Branson

Last but not least, stress and depression can be overcome by engaging yourself in a business field. These will give you courage to succeed in life and avoid all the negativities that brings u down. From my perceptive, I would say business lifestyle will give you an extraordinary exposure where you will get to meet new people and this will make you come out of the small minded which lead to depression. You will get witness how successful people are living in this world with beautiful goals and dreams . Therefore, find a right business opportunity and start commencing it.

To sum up the point, business opportunities will give you great turning point in your life which will change the way you speak, the way you think and the way you see this world. From here, your social circle will be surrounded by only quality circle of people which is a sign that positivity is surrounded in form of people and you can feel the vibes.

Writer: Karthikaiyan

With Love,

Crazy Geek Team

HOW TO BE A GOOD FRIEND?

How can you be an amazing friend? One of the most important and formative types of relationship you will experience in a lifetime is friendship. I’m sure everyone of us lucky enough to experience the feeling of joy and happiness that comes from bonding with a real friend also being one either way.

Friendship is one of the best gift’s life has to offer. There is nothing on this earth more to be prized than true friendship


Thomas Aquinas

I’ve decided to blog on the beauty of being a friend and having a good friend which evolve a strong friendship in two-way street. The fact of the matter is we are all wired for meaningful relationships. Studies show if you have good friends throughout your life, you will live longer. There is a lot of truth behind the common saying, “In order to have a great friend, you must first be one.” So how can you learn to be a great friend? What does it take? Here are some qualities I’ll share to you readers which I’m applying as a friend. In turn, you’ll be teaching your friends how to become better ones.

Being a great friend to someone and having friends support your back is good for your wellbeing. But what, exactly makes a good friend? Check on them. How often you do that? As a friend, I’ve made sure they’re (friends) alright. It’s easy to go overboard, but when tactful it can mean the world to them when you show you’re concerned. Send them a text, a phone call (even better) or surprise them by showing up at their front door. Who doesn’t like surprises? If it’s me I would be jumping in joy *giggles*. Probably, that’s how I’ll turn up to my friends. It just means showing you want them to be ok. I’m pretty sure all of us done this at some points yet don’t just stop there. You can just text or call them right now, never know they needed you at this moment. I used to put on a brave face when I was going through rough times. It sucked but having good friends around who knew when I wasn’t really ok helped a lot. Just the matter of effort and the amount of care and concern you have for your friends.

Besides, always put in your best efforts. When they ask your opinion or help on something that means the most to them. It means they value what you think. Show them you’re as invested as they are. The best I could do as a friend to help them out, ask them what they really in need. So that I can offer them support in a way that’s genuinely helpful. It is good to be there for a friend rescuing them like the Superman during their tough times. Since young we’ve grown up watching the cartoons of our favorite that has always convey us to be a helping hand for someone right especially the SUPERHEROES been doing that in the concept for the loved ones. So why not? best childhood I had by learning to be a helping mind and surely you too. Friends are always a shoulder to cry on, am I right? No doubt about it. I believe friendship require a combination of trust, respect, love and emotional support.

“The strong bond of friendship is not always about giving and taking in equal shares. Instead, friendship is grounded in a feeling that you know exactly who will be there for you when in need something, no matter what or when”


Simon Sinek

“Don’t wait for people to be friendly. Show them how.” We need meaningful connections with other people. Not everyone has to be a close friend, but it’s integral to our happiness that we show people who we truly are, allow ourselves to know them in return, and then remind each other through actions, small or large that we care. After all, understand and respect boundaries. Know that you don’t have to be together 24/7. I need my space to recharge and I don’t always feel like hanging out with others. That doesn’t mean I don’t like them. Can you feel me? Anyone being in the same shoe? Good friends aren’t pushy and don’t get upset because of an occasional “no”. In fact, good friends know how to pick up right where they left off no matter how long it’s been since they last saw each other.

Personally, honesty hits a different perspective in every individual when it comes to any relationship especially in friendship. Being honest and constructive, speaking out keeping the promises and do what you say you’re going to do. Particularly, be reliable. Nobody wants to be friends with someone who lies. And lies always have a way of coming to the light, in me believe as well. Also, friends will say the truth to one another, even when it’s hard. The wisest man in the Bible: King Solomon, said – Faithful are the wounds of a friend, but the kisses of an enemy are deceitful. Prove yourself to be a trustworthy person who will guard all the sharing’s with your life. Friends come and go, but true friend sticks by you like family – King Solomon. Are you willing to be a friend like that? Of course.

Most of all, friendship entails reciprocity and respect. Without these two qualities, the relationship will be limited and fizzle over time. I don’t entitle myself as a great friend yet trying and still learning to be the best I could for my dearest friends whoever been there for me and being one too. Glad to have a bunch of them around me. How grateful are you to have great friends around? Appreciate them whenever its possible. It will definitely mean a lot to them as it is for us being one for them.

True Friends Helping Each Other to Grow

It takes a lot of work and commitment to be a great friend. TRUST ME!! That’s not easy to earn such long-term friendship within a night. But it is worth if your continuous efforts are there while building one with your friends. Keep in mind there are people all around you who are looking for friends. So, continue developing good friends if you have them in your life. And your life will be far better for it. True friends are like diamonds, precious but rare, false friends are like autumn leaves, found everywhere. Stick to the right one and build and friendship empire for yourself.

Written By: Laavanyah Raj

With Love,

Crazy Geek Team

Why We Need To Have A Goal?

Why we need to set goals in life?

The exact definition of a goal, according to Wikipedia, is a desired outcome that an entity or system envisions, plans and commits to achieving a desired personal or organizational endpoint in some form of assumed growth. By setting deadlines, several individuals aim to accomplish targets within a limited time. In other words, whatever you intend for the future, no matter what it is, is a target. But the next time you plan to do the weekly chores or decide to watch that very cool action movie after work, always bear in mind that these tiny tasks count as goals and you are setting goals while obviously insignificant. Therefore, are you setting targets for yourself? What are your priorities for 1 year to come? How about in 10 years? In life, what are your aspirations? The first stage of successful objective achievement is the setting of goals. This marks the first step towards achievement. It’s when you move from a passive state to being involved in life.

FIRSTLY, YOUR LIFE WILL BE UNDER YOUR CONTROL. A lot of people are sleepwalking through life today. They don’t feel like they are getting what they want, even if they work hard. That’s because where they want to go, what they want to do, they have no path. Students graduate and they’re not sure what to do with their lives; when they hit their 40s, adults work for years and are surprised and they don’t know what to do next. You break out of your autopilot mode and begin to live a life of your conscious creation when you start setting goals and dream about what you want. Instead of letting others tell you what to do, you take the lead proactively and think about what you want for yourself. As Bill Copeland says, you can spend your entire life running up and down and not accomplishing something when you don’t set objectives. You’re really only following the purposes of others, not yours.

“The trouble with not having a goal is that you can spend your life running up and down the field and never score.” – Bill Copeland

NEXT, YOU WILL KNOW WHICH SCOPE TO FOCUS IN YOUR LIFE. Objectives give you emphasis. Although you are given a general guide by a life objective, your objectives give you laser focus as to exactly what to spend your time and energy on. As the input, think of your energy and the outcomes as the output. You create a focal point when you have a target, where your energy can be channeled to create the full reward. Here you prioritise and define the key action measures to get top grades, such as choosing the best class combination for optimum grades, reviewing examination papers from last year, consulting your teachers, and making a study schedule, while eliminating time consuming tasks such as excessive use of social media and binge-watching TV shows. As I said, setting goals helps you reflect on what’s important to you, what you want to do, and where you want to be in the future. In decision making, this viewpoint helps. You are in a stronger place to make choices that will impact your path in life if you know where you want to go. If you know what is important to you and what you really want to achieve, you can make a better decision about how you want to proceed.


“You need a plan to build a house. To build a life, it is even more important to have a plan or goal.” – Zig Ziglar

BESIDES THAT, IT WILL KEEPS YOUR LIFE JOURNEY MOTIVATING. You align yourself with your innermost desires when you set goals. They help empower you and provide you with something to aspire for. If you’re not in a good place in life at the moment, this is particularly powerful. Your goals help remind you of the things you love, redirect your focus away from the negative obstacles, and reconnect you with your innermost desires. “Obstacles are those frightening things you see when you take your eyes off your target, to quote Henry Ford.” When you feel pessimistic and down, it’s mostly because you feel like you have little worth looking forward to. The rainbow to aim for, to drive you out of the storm, are your goals. I will meditate and reflect on some of the most important goals in my life, such as all the people I wish to reach out to and support in the world, if I ever lost motivation. I can imagine with total clarity the situation, as if it were happening now. This instantly links me with my inner self as I recall my WHY (my deepest motivation), after which I will immediately feel energized.

“The great thing in this world is not so much where we are, but in what direction we are moving.” – Oliver Wendell Holmes

FURTHERMORE, SEATING GOALS GIVES YOU PERSONAL SATISFACTION AND PURPOSE OF LIFE WILL BE REALIZED. Goals make your life more complicated, but they give you a sense of personal fulfilment at the same time. Setting your personal goals and achieving them makes you understand your talents and gives you an idea of your full potential. The key strategy for helping you achieve your full potential is setting goals. Each effective step towards achieving your short-term and long-term goals creates confidence and gives you a sense of personal pride. The more you do, the better you will feel about yourself. In their lives, people need a sense of purpose, and goals will give you that feeling of purpose. Your ambitions give you reasons to get up in the morning, a purpose act, and a reason to live the life you wanted, instead of only going through the motions and living from day to day. The process of setting goals helps you determine your purpose in life. You discover your intent by taking the time to reflect on who you are and what you want to do in your life. If you focus your priorities on that target, your life becomes more important.

“The reason most people never reach their goals is that they don’t define them, or ever seriously consider them as believable or achievable. Winners can tell you where they are going, what they plan to do along the way, and who will be sharing the adventure with them.” – Denis Watley

IN ADDITION, YOUR LIFE MOMENTUM WILL BE BOOST UP NO MATTER HOW HARD SITUATION TURNS. Objectives provide you with optimism and something to aspire to. In itself, it can be really motivating to have a big target to think about and imagine achieving. You are able to reach some short-term targets when you start with your long-term goals. Your long-term target becomes more achievable with those achievements. The more you are able to meet short-term goals, the more you believe you can achieve your ultimate target. Your motivation is fueled by the feeling of success and continues to inspire you to accomplish even more. In addition, that encouragement and optimistic feelings can help you get through several challenges along the way that you can encounter. Your mind tends to reflect more on how to fulfil those objectives until you have specific written objectives. You start to make regular strides towards your objectives instead of only dreaming that you can do something someday. And the smallest acts on a regular basis, over the course of a year, add up to big results.


“Your goals are the road maps that guide you and show you what is possible for your life.” – Les Brown


NEVERTHELESS, PROCRASTINATION ALSO CAN BE AVOIDED BY SETTING GOALS AND OUR LARGEST GOALS TURNS INTO MANAGEABLE ONES. You make yourself responsible for finishing the assignment when you set a goal for yourself. This is in complete contrast to when you do things based on a whim and whether or not you complete them doesn’t matter. Goals tend to stick in your mind, and they give you a reminder to complete and accomplish it. Lots of us have big dreams and hopes. It’s one of the things that makes life exciting for us! But a lot of us never take the time to figure out how we can get from point A to point B effectively. So, unfortunately, we have never entirely accomplished those targets. We look at our dreams and convince ourselves that they are ever accomplished by only a select few people, so we write off ourselves as individuals not meant to achieve that level of success. It can be intimidating, daunting, and discourage us from even pursuing them to look at the final product of a target. Fortunately, setting goals allows us to split big, daunting goals into smaller ones. These small measures and more realistic milestones will help us build momentum and motivate us to continue moving towards the next level of our target. The foundation from which we can start to create the life we really want to have for ourselves, our families, and maybe even for our societies, depending on how large your goals are! Whenever I get talking about this aspect of goal setting, I can’t help but think about the mountain climbing analogy, and that the best way to climb a mountain is simply step by step.

“Far away there in the sunshine are my highest aspirations. I may not reach them, but I can look up and see their beauty, believe in them, and try to follow where they lead.” -Louisa May Alcott

LAST BUT NOT LEAST, always remember this, ” Ideas are great. Goals are great. Thinking is great ……But always remember EXECUTION is Much much better. It’s time to stop thinking and start doing…… “If you have a goal in life that takes a lot of energy, that requires a lot of work, that incurs a great deal of interest and that is a challenge to you, you will always look forward to waking up to see what the new day brings.” Susan Polis Schultz

Relationship with friend

True Friend are like a mirror

Share laughers even stupid jokes and cries

Gentle honesty with you to let you see the trues

Pull you when you slip on your way

Be grateful for you not jealousy

Be there like a shadow even you are at thousand miles away,

To guide you, to support you in discovering your greatest self.

And still loving you even at your worst and weird part.

IJA GHAZALI

Back then, when I was a kid (for your information: I’m a girl here), I learn to be friends with boys first than only girls because I grew up with my brothers around. So, when I started to learn to be friends with the girls, I saw some differences. Girls I knew choose priorities of appearance and the popularity to be friend with rather than boys don’t give a damn about how you look or how popular you’re, for them if you can be your true self you can be the best buddies. When I’m in primary school, to be honest, I think I just found one friend that choose to be with me even at the hardest part. She’s kind but she like to conquer to follow her way sometimes.

In addition to that, she’s with a group of people that loves to be beautiful or have popularity with. So, I choose to take a step back, with my low self-confidence it made me feel I’m not that worthy anymore in the group. There was a time I’ve been bullied by a girl that’s beautiful by using her own face to make people sympathy towards her and defame me. But when I’m crying alone in the toilet, she pulls my hair and show smirk face at me. I even didn’t have good friends in my class. When there’s a boy bullying me by throwing his socks at my face and I cried but no one defends me. That encouraged me to be brave.

When I’m in secondary school, at first, I have a friend that I thought could be my good friend, but she’s a “friends with benefits type”.  She is close with me only if she doesn’t have any friends. That’s when I learn to make many friends because you wouldn’t know which one of them give suits you as friend. Then, I met my first ever true friend. For the first time ever in my life, I felt the truest of friendship that I treasure it till 13 years now and still counting. After that, one by one I got to make real friends but in the meantime of that of course I met to the fake ones. There are people I do be friends with but because of jealousy, they dropped me away. Once, I had a time where I decided not friends anymore with someone even our friendship about 8 years already, because I trusted her and shared my secret and it turns out she shared my story in my social media. However, the story in it was from her perspective, however let’s see how I have overcome this in a positive way.

I didn’t fight back with her because I learned how to be professional and to be kind to people, instead of reacting, I was responding. I tend to do it in a very calm way even though my emotions were very disturbed. Just stand strong and eventually people will see the truth.

My best friend never left me behind, they remember my birthday, do silly things to make me laugh, they helped me see the truth when I’m doing something in a wrong way, support me to follow my dreams even though it is quite impossible to get but they believe I could. Even when I’m in broken parts, they were there for me, even if their bodies are far away from me. They take me for short trips to get me away from my sadness or problem. They always remembered my favorites part. They are so generous that wouldn’t hesitate help me as much they could. Even when some of them is dating with their boyfriend, they didn’t ignore my presence. Yes, there’s of course had a time where we will quarrel, but we will be honest on what we are felt, asked forgiveness and be forgiven, learn to understand each other instead of being self-centered. We find out solutions so that the earlier experience would not happen again. Moreover, we will share any knowledgeable things in helping each other growth. Those make me to keep want to treasure our moments.

The resolution

So dear, from the lesson I had, love is not enough by the heart but how you act too and where did you put your love ones in your life. Discover the right way to have a great communication and know how and when the time should be discussed. Be loyal even it challenged your heart because it’s beautiful and when you are loyal, it shows that you are being true to yourself. Being loyal, it led you to accept your friends’ weakness and use it to help them fill those gaps and make them know they always have your back. Be honest and open about everything, even it will hurt because if not, you couldn’t find how to get through those problem and at same time will build trust in each other. If you want to be respectful, be respect to others first.

When you are respecting them, you will get to listen in a proper way and you will respect their privacy, their own way, their dreams or goals and others. Be patience, instead just judging, help them! Because not all will discover a way as fast or great as you might be. That’s why we need each other. Not all will result same so keep encouraging each other to overcome not battling each other. Last but not least, value your relationship smartly, know when to stay and when to leave and how to appreciate it.

That’s all from us. 😊 Wishing you the best in discovering friends that help build healthy relationship.

Best of luck and love from Crazy Geek Team

SOCIAL NORMS – AN OPINION

We live in the 21st century, where children at the age of 2 surprise me with their capability of handling smartphones. With the era of globalization, everything seems one click away. Exponential growth is seemed as the only growth worth noting. Let it be in professional or mental growth. Although we’re swimming in a pool of data that offers abundance of information, it does not equate to knowledge or wisdom acquired.

Even with all these developments and information on the all creations that can shape us in every which way, we are primarily brought up by ‘Our Social Norms’. Yes, I believe that Social Norm differs from person to person, depending on their culture, family, race and community.

According to the Stanford Encyclopedia of Philosophy, Social Norms is the informal rules that govern behavior in groups and societies. Simply said, “what is generally accepted”. How we are nurtured, does not only depend on the parenting we received as a child but what we are exposed to growing up and who we surround ourselves with through the lifetime.

To put this into context, if someone were to grow up in a household that practiced only the mother to do all the house chores even though both are working parents and this is practiced through their social circles, the mindset of kids in the household might be tuned in a similar way. In future, the men might prefer and / or expect their wives to behave in a parallel mannerism and the women would willingly do the same without questioning.

On top of this, it is highly likely that as this is the social norm they have been exposed to consistently, it will remain as the right way in their opinion. Though we can always argue that living in the world of internet, we are exposed to a wider range of social circle. It is no more just the people we interact with in real life. Virtual interactions are more often tend to hold a significant place in shaping a person’s social norms.

In accordance to Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs, one of human’s basic psychological needs is belongingness. As such, we, human beings crave being accepted. Hence, no matter where you are physically, we will seek for like-minded people to agree with our opinion and slowly grow their community bigger. In this process, how many are willing to listen to the parties that oppose their view?

Growing up in an Indian household myself, I developed with a very strict set of standards, morals and rules which I believed must be abide by with no excuses. The social norm I was exposed to were quite common for the middle-class Indian community living in Malaysia. So, in my eyes that is how I will be when I grew up. But somewhere along the way in my short life, without me even realising it, things started changing. My opinions waived quite a lot. I felt quite embarrassed on how I can’t stick to one side and decide who I want to be.

Looking back, I would honestly sit her down and thank her for not being too set in her own ways. As I believe the pivotal reason as to who I am today is because that girl listened and contemplated. When someone was to speak on a topic and I don’t agree with their view, instead of blocking it completely, I take my time to comprehend where they might be coming from. And as we have witnessed from time and time, an opinion is what molds the social norm. When opinions change, so does the social norm. As civilized individuals, it is our job to ensure it develops for the betterment of the society instead of hindering it.

Being young we are more open to discussions and new ways of looking at the world. As we grow older, as we gain a sense of self, we tend to be set in our own ways. And if you have taken the time to read till this part, all I encourage you to start doing is one simple thing, QUESTION EVERYTHING! Remember as growing into adulthood, we shape our social norm and how we shape it determines how the future is to be.

“The best way to predict the future is to create it. ~Peter Drucker, Management guru”

DO YOU BELIEVE WE (AS HUMAN BEINGS) HAVE POWERS?

Before diving into my experiences with regards of this topic, I thought it would be fun if you (dear readers) take a moment to answer few questions to yourself, maybe you can write out or type it out too. First one is what is your favorite cartoon character when you were young, second question was it the same until now and the last question is do you believe that characters really do exist or it’s just a myth?

Do put some thoughts into it and answer truthfully to yourself, and yeah, this piece of writing is also about learning yourself.

Let me share with you few scenarios when I really experience that human beings do have power

  • When I met Ascendance and ET Ideas (Like the Marvel Characters)

They share about things like believing in yourself, correcting yourself before changing the world in terms of your own thoughts, words and actions. Each one of the members they have powers and so do you and me (we all have our hearts) and from my little experience on this planet Earth, I felt our hearts is where we are going get our power. From them I learned something which is, following your heart is the most powerful tool you have and it really makes you so powerful in this world.

  • When I really started following my heart

I was in a full-time employment and that is not something my heart wants but I need to gain that experience for me to do what my hearts wants, even though I was very reactive in the beginning, now it has been 2 years passed and now I really take the guts to follow what my heart says which is entrepreneurship (something since young I adore). I really feel the power that lies deep within me when I started doing the things I love and doing from my own creativity. This is when I realized the cartoon characters that you liked when you were young is actually within you, you just need to follow what you are naturally good at, ie. Dancing, singing, teaching or even accounting (just do it) if you heart says so.

  • When I genuinely help people from my heart

I very much believe in human’s being vibrations, actually before meeting ET Ideas I never knew about what is vibrations or human actually emits vibrations which is now you know so called “the power”. Each of us vibrates in different speed and intensity based on our thoughts and many other elements that’s influenced it. When we repeat a thought very frequent enough, we will exit that powerful vibration to the world out there, so dear readers please start to send positive thoughts to the universe, the more frequent and intense it is, the more power you have to achieve that particular goal. So how does helping other people making you more powerful, I’m not very sure about others but for me, I really get more positive results in my life as I do better to the society be it just sending good thoughts, words and actions.

Without you being aware, each of us have our own powers within ourselves, it’s our responsibility to unveil what is it through the work and goals that we have set for ourselves.

Another one last thing that I wanted to share is the animation series I’m currently loving watching which is Avatar – The Last Airbender. Yes, many of you have watched but for me I think it’s the right time for me to watch as I experience life in a whole lot different level. From that series, the Avatar actually is the last person who can save the world and change the world for a better place. From the little series I watched, I learned one lesson which is we have powers within us and we need to dig it out to show the full potential of ours to the world out there.

Have a wonderful weekend dear followers and readers.

Unleash your powers that lies within you. Thank you reading all our piece of writing.


Written by: Laavannya Sugumar

WOMEN EMPOWERMENT

Why is empowering girls and women being so crucial? How does the sense of self-confidence, abilities to make your own choices and influencing social change for themselves and others empowers women? I’m already delighted and empowered to be given this platform to write, share and instill growth and empower others to bring about change. “There is no chance for the welfare of the world unless the condition of women is improved, it is not possible for a bird to fly on only one wing” – Swami Vivekananda.

I would say self-development and empowerment starts with you. As a young woman who has had to face the world while growing up, I have come to understand one thing, you alone as an individual can develop yourself, other people will come later on but it starts with YOU. In today’s generation where one wants to be validated by other people, we need to validate ourselves first. In early 20’s, I started looking at myself in the mirror and told myself I can do this, figuring out what to be in future, how to work on it etc. I work hard not to prove a point to anyone but because I knew what I wanted to be and love to do. Being a bookworm, I read more and more. I became my own friend; I studied hard and I spent most of my time doing what I love. I had people around me, but I did not allow them to influence any of my decisions. I kept my plans to myself as I strongly believe ‘actions speak louder than words’

Being a woman, I’ve becoming. To me the connection between writing and empowerment has always been an obvious one as I could relate myself that connects to my passion and goals. One of my passion came for real when I begin to write with the encouragement and guidance of another woman, dearest Lavannya she is. A hardworking senior, leader, sisterly friend I’ve came to know. Not forgetting, my fellow ladies working as a team special mention Ija, Loshinee and Ahgi. “In every successful man there is a woman behind.” Since I was born, I heard this saying. But is this, always right? Can’t it be the other way around. We’re a team in the name of ‘The Crazy Geek’ with one man show, dearest Kaarthik. He has been a great team member, a good friend, and the only thorn among the roses. A great support to all the ladies in the team. I’m glad I could develop my hidden skills and passion through this opportunity. A little sharing on how I develop my skills, self-confidence, and a steady mind to walk towards success in life.

The fact is that in several places it’s critical to empower ourselves, so we need support, guidance, and mentorship as a part of our start. This is not easy (specially to find a role model or mentor) if you have one, consider yourself lucky and if you don’t have one, never head down. We could always learn to be more cooperative and supportive of each other. I do believe that if we motivate each other, we can have better impact and make a change in life. It will sound very inspiring when you motivate yourself to fulfill your goals. Few good role models are born in local proudly I would say, whereby their achievements and unbreakable records are many that we’re celebrating till today. Our super ladies are Datuk Nicol Ann David, Michelle Yeoh, Datuk M.Rajamani and other inspiring women out there too. They are great leader to us who has reach success in their respective career. “There’s no limit to what we, as women, can accomplish”- Michelle Obama

Empowerment comes to us in two ways:

  1. The access to external sources of inspiration and knowledge; and
  2. Self-respect and self-confidence.

Harsha Ravindran, a young entrepreneur that aims to impact and bring about change to 1 million teens. Isn’t inspiring? Hell yes!!! She shares Business Insights in her book entitle, ‘The Makings of a Teenage Entrepreneur’. Personally, she inspires me too. So, what women entrepreneurs can do to boost your level of empowerment and reach our personal and professional potential? Recognize what knowledge and skills you lack and find tools and resources to increase your proficiency. This requires a commitment, honestly assessing your strengths and weaknesses.

Besides, align yourself with positive people (professionally and personally). I cannot emphasize enough how much this affects your morale and motivation. Chronically, negative people drain your energy and enthusiasm. When they direct their skepticism and sarcasm at you and your endeavors, they deplete your self-confidence and leave your feeling defeated.

Don’t be afraid to say ‘no’ or voice your position. Being outspoken, I’ve always spoken for the truth. I was spoon-fed by my dearest grandmother and mother mainly with all the love and strong words to face the reality bravely and to speak out my heart. That really makes me into a person I am today with good lessons and thoughts from them since young. I am truly blessed to have them. If people ask too much of you, learn to say ‘no’. Overextending yourself will create excess stress and pull you away from what really matters. Also, don’t be afraid to voice your opinion when you disagree adamantly about something. Although initially, you might meet criticism, in the long run, you’ll gain more respect. Most importantly, you’ll respect yourself and that is mission critical for feeling empowered.

Start the day on a note of gratitude. I make it a point to have a few minutes every day to consciously thinking about everything I have to be thankful for. What better way to get a positive start? It immediately puts me in the right frame of mind for dealing with whatever it is, and life will bring my way. I dare you to find an excuse as to why you can’t try this! “Whatever you fear most has no power, it is your fear that has the power”- Oprah Winfrey.”

Empowering women is powerful beyond measure and beautiful beyond description. Every programme is investing abundantly to encourage women to break free from their traditional roles and do away with gender stereotypes. So, its time to break barriers and explore alternative programmes for advocating them to the world of new era. Every women success should be an inspiration to another. “We’re strongest when we cheer each other on.” – Serena Williams. Dedicating this to all the women out there.

May we know them. May we be them. May we raise them.

Writer: Young but full with inspiration Laava💕

Are you really following your heart??

Can you feel that your whole body system, mind and soul is at misalignment? For me, I could feel it until at one point of time I couldn’t take it. Again the illusion VS reality, I spoke to my mentor few days back that I’m being competitive and the urge for desires are increasing. Dear readers, this is something my heart wants to share at the middle of night, so yeah I’m writing this piece for you. Hope you will enjoy it and also do share it if you feel this should be known to others too.

stay connected to your soul

The conversations with my mentor was just through phone the day before I actually met him to speak about this. He as usual asked me few questions which jammed my subconscious mind and wakes my heart back. I will get into the details of the conversation later but what I thought I have mastered which is not being reactive when someone says I’m doing wrong or you’re doing a huge mistake; however, I realized it is still there. Actually it took for me a whole day to calm my emotions down to really accept what he told to me, it was like a war between my mind and my heart, I was keep on telling to myself accept it full-heartedly and don’t listen to your mind because it will only disturb you if you allow it only. So I made decision I accept what he said and there’s a lesson for me to learn from that experience (which is about my oneself).

The moment I accepted, I set meeting to meet my mentor, I must be very grateful that I still have someone to guide me even when I have been so in pride and ego back then, nature has been extremely kind to me. THANK YOU NATURE!!!!!

After my work is over, we went to a shop to have dinner and talk about these over the conversation. He asked me few questions;

  1. Why are you doing so many things at a time?
  2. Are you trying to show off to the place that you were once belong to and come back?
  3. Are you being perfect?
  4. Do you want to grow fast? But why?
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I was really puzzled when he asked all these questions but one programming that was very strong with me is competitiveness, that started when my parents praised me that I’m doing better than my siblings until I went into work. So it is like almost 20+ years programming. I realized one lesson from talking to my mentor, you will never go anywhere competing with people, in fact actually the person who you are competing with is doing better because they are focus on the job and you are focusing on the competitions.

He also showed me few things which I myself couldn’t be aware of which is I was copying some other people’s ideas and doing that as if that’s my idea and working on it. When I really think hard, I realized that ohhhh yeahhhh, that is not my idea, I made a mistake now. You can’t grow if you copy someone’s idea, that is not the way.

After talking for 40 minutes, few lessons I learned from my mentor and currently start to apply one-by-one. It is definitely not easy but I’m not going to give up, after all we are living this one life.

  1. Follow Your Heart – It will only ask to focus on 1 thing
  2. Be Humble
  3. Be Creative – come up with original idea
  4. Have Kind Heart
  5. Give first if you want something
  6. In relationship, don’t have expectations with your partner

I guess it will also be applicable to you whether you are a student, professional or young adult, as long as you are a human, definitely you could connect well too.

Have a great day ahead.

Till then, bye.

With Light & Love,

Crazy Geek Team

Are mentors/coaches/guidance important for you to grow?

Guidance and Growth

Since even before the era of technology everything that was created comes with a set of operating manuals. Something to guide us through to ensure that the tasks we set out to do are successful. However, when it comes to life decisions, we don’t have any manuals. Human beings are raised and set out into the world with our knowledge, ethics and life lessons. But there is no set of instructions that will ensure that the tasks we set out to do in life will be a confirm success. In this piece we will see 3 areas of guidance – how I understand guidance, my experience and my realization.

Meaning – guidance is helping someone to achieve a goal that they had set out to be completed. Who is to give this guidance? A mentor – an experienced member who provides guidance and support to empower protégés to reach their goals, while a protégé is any member who seeks guidance and support from a mentor to reach their goals. This mentor-protégé relationship is often mutually beneficial. Both parties learn new ideas, see varying perspectives, and find new methods of approaching people, topics, and situations. Learning these new ways of thinking creates an opportunity for more self-awareness and insight into the way others think and helps each other grow. In the end, the protégé accomplishes their goal with the mentor by their side.

Experience – In my story as a protégé, my first mentor was my mother. Of course, this started off as her playing her duties as my mother to guide and support me when I embark on new challenges. But only during my college days I realized her role as a mentor. She was never hands-on, or assertive with her opinions. But I always knew she is there for me to turn to when I was in doubt. It was a unique experience. Because my goals were set based on my passion and drive and as a mentor she only gave me perspectives to see things. Slowly I comprehended the importance of her role. I was more grateful for her insights and sharing of her experience that paved my path. Sometimes, we just might be too close to see the big picture, and when guided properly to take a step back, the process gets easier. And just like that our focus could be realigned and we simply are one step closer to realize the goal set. I was lucky enough that I didn’t have to search far because I was born to my Mentor.

Realization – my realization of my mother being my mentor brought upon more awareness towards all the guidance we receive in life. We all can agree that learning and self-growth is a lifelong process John Henry Newman had put it so elegantly “Growth is the only evidence of Life”. For as long as we breathe, we don’t only grow in terms of career but also personally and even spiritually. In every part, we have someone to give us guidance and support. And it made me realize, that, as a protégé, I will always remain a protégé because when I set a new goal in an unchartered territory for myself, a mentor is who I would seek. And thus, it was clear. I will always be a protégé, even in the future if I were to be a mentor, I will still look for guidance when I am looking to grow myself. It is a fact that – A mentor is said to be most effective when they are also a protégé.

In conclusion, I would like to highlight that in life we all require guidance in one way or another, and when a mentor is in our corner we might not realize they are providing support and guidance for us to reach our goals. It is a simple matter that is so often overlooked. So, I would you to just take a moment to look back and also forward in our days to come and cherish those who have played mentor roles in our lives as well as to be conscious when you are being a silent mentor to a protégé. At the end of the day, the right guidance will empower you to be whatever you set out to become.

Oprah Winfrey once said, “A mentor is someone who allows you to see the hope in yourself” and I couldn’t agree more.

Writer:Ahgi

Warrior Princess

Dear readers, “Cherish every moment you have with your loved ones, because you didn’t know, when will the time come, you just only can wish you could have it again with them”. This week’s blog post topic is not about tale stories or any legend warrior, but this topic is dedicated to my dear beautiful friend who is a warrior for me. This is about her journey in fighting severe illness. I’m sharing her story to give hope, it could give a lesson and awareness to all of you and may her journey be not just staying like that but could help others too.

“When you love someone, define it with the time you spend with them. Either you make a time or have time for them”

My time with her is defined by having a time, and not make a time. And I regretted. I just can wish for now that I am still given more chance in future to fix it back even for a short period of time.

First step journey

In 2019, she was diagnosed with Stevens-Johnson syndrome because of drug allergy in the pain killer she consumed. It’s not her first time taking it but the type of the medication may have reacted differently as she had before. The medication she takes still didn’t reduce her pain and she still keep eating it and the early symptoms starts. She was having fevers, back pain and added with sore throat. She didn’t think anything bad until second symptoms come out when her skin start shows multiple discrete red purples skin lesions on all part of her body. I repeat, all part. She quickly went to the government clinic and the doctor directly call ambulance to take her to specialist hospital. She was admitted for few weeks. Doctor told her that she’s almost late and if she comes later, it will affect her heart and can be life threatening. I can’t hold my tears, when I looked at the photo, that she sent to me. The blister and rash on her face, crusty sores on her lips. The bright and smooth skin she had were replaced with a lot of red purples moles all over her face. Blister on her lips make difficult for her to eat that time. It’s not something easier to accept especially for a woman when your face turns out like that. Even just have few pimples can make women stress and lose confident, so imagine what she had to get through when her face and her lips turn like that.

Every day she is given with 10 different kinds of medicines. It feels like as if she’s an experimental object because doctors must always test her in order to get a suitable medication for her. Due to this, she can’t take the shower product anymore. She got some body cream to start applying. The entire product must first be approved by the doctor. Her prayer for her body continued to change. Every time she took a bath, she felt ache. There was a while of irritation on her skin, bleeding skin and peeing. She has got to bear the itchy thing and she’s had the time to scratch on her hand and ankle, which makes her itchy too. The doctor has to bandage all over her palms and her ankle to ensure no infection. After few weeks, her skin shows improvements. The purples red lesion reduces and gone. But still her skin suffers serious eczema. She even feels embarrassed when I said I want to sleep over her house because of few supplications she needs to apply after bath. Despite those things, she’s still working hard on her job as usual and not let those things stop her to make a life.

The answer for the pain

After one year plus with Steven-Johnson syndrome, in 2020, she kept feeling the pain on her back and her butt. And again, she didn’t think anything negative. She just eats ‘Panadol’ to relief her pains. But then, she realises she kept losing appetite and for less than two months, she loses weight about 10kg. She always has to take Medical Leave. The worst part is when she gets fever with chills and her body were sweating at night. But she still just eats ‘Panadol’ and muscles relief. Then, in January 2021, the pain keeps increasing that sometimes the pain will stay from night till dawn. These symptoms start making her to lose focus on her job because she couldn’t sleep well, easily tired, lose weight, pale, and there had a time she has to bend a bit when walking to reduce feeling of her pains.

One day, her housemate, suddenly pat her butt and she felt so painful until stabbing pain in her stomach. She quickly goes to clinic and after scan, it shows the result that there is cyst twisted type grow near her ovaries. That night she was referred to hospital for surgery because can’t wait longer and about two cysts were removed. She feels grateful and ease because she could sleep well that night after the surgeries. Unfortunately, tomorrow at night, she gets fever with chills again and her back pain again that make the doctor gave her high dose of antibiotics and not allowed her to discharge soon. She didn’t show any improvement and the doctor suggest her to do CT scan. She couldn’t believe that time, when the result show there are tumours under her neck. The second surgery went and about 6cm tumour were removed.

Biggest test

The suffering not just end like that. The biggest suffering to fight comes when while surgery, the doctor saw more white blood comes out. She was advised to take few tests to get confirmation of the disease. On 4 February 2021 which is Cancer Days, the doctor told her that the result show she was diagnosed of Lymphoma Cancer. She felt all her world dark and stopped. She feels so down and cried harder as much as she could. Then, she knew that she couldn’t fight alone anymore because her body was very weak and no more courage to stand and walk like before. She also has to find courage, not because to get through treatment process but to be ready hear another result which is the stage of her cancer.

Two weeks before she knew the stage of her cancer and at that time, she told me on the phone she has cancer, I just couldn’t believe it’s true. My heart sank and I couldn’t focus on my job. I just want to hug her and comfort her. I cry and cry, and keep thinking all those happen to her within short period of time. I do tell her if I could get at least one day to take care of her. But I didn’t get that chance because her parents came and she had to go back to her hometown at Sarawak to continue treatment there and get close with her parents. I feel hopeless, frustrated. I really want to meet her. Pandemic makes more harder for us. I couldn’t visit her in hospital and travel far. I pray to God, at least give me something and be grateful. She gets to meet me two days before she flies back to her hometown.

I meet her on 19 February. She looks so beautiful and bright. Like have lights on her face and so different. I said to myself that I would not cry in front of her as so she would feel weaker. Then when she tells me her cancer were at stage 4 and already spread to her back and other part of her body but she will get more details once she starts treatment at her hometown hospital. I try to calm as much as I could. But my voice starts to vibrate slowly. Her cousin accompanies her because she actually couldn’t go out anywhere and have to just lay on the bed, but because of me, she tried. Touched. I hug her, and I feels her body not strong as before. I try hide my tears by hugging her bit longer. She eats with me. She smiles, make jokes and laugh like nothing happens. Try to comfort me because I know my face show it all. She actually couldn’t sit properly since her back already affects. But she tries show she enjoy eating. I saw how she try to hide her pain. I just think want to hug her and look at her as much as I could. Then I saw her palm and ankle still have effect of the Steven John syndrome. Guys, it’s terrible. Skin at her ankle hard and bit darker, redness, and lesions. Her palm so dry, wrinkle and allergies. I can’t hold my tear anymore. She hugs me and said please don’t cry, she can’t cry anymore because too much cried before. She promises me, she will fight till to recover as long as she gives a chance. I’m so proud of her. She tells me, that she must be so special and so strong than ever, that’s why she was tested like that.

Now, she still in quarantined time before can get to the hospital for the treatment process. For 6-month treatment, every day she will update the story to let other people get the awareness. Every day she said she glad and can’t believe she still alive and how she tries harder to keep fight her cancer. At first, I am scared if I will lose her so soon and there have time, I got nightmare and I texted her at 4am to ensure nothing happen to her. But now, I just want her to know that she’s not fighting this alone. Always be loved and she already done beyond than incredible things to be strong till now. Although I wish she will recover soon and can get back here to celebrate our friendship anniversary in September, but the result is still on God’s hand. I just don’t want her suffer anymore. Too much suffer she had gone through now.

To all the reader out there. Take this story as lesson and spread this awareness. Sometimes the things look simply and nothing much could give negative impact at the end. Sorry for this long story and thank you sticking till the end.

Written by Ija

Are you feeling not so okay? This piece is for you then.

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Taken from thirteenthoughts.com

I just felt I need to let the universe know about what I’m going through and that it is okay to feel like that sometimes. Let’s see what lesson you can bring back to your life and apply from my experience.

It has been quite a number of weeks in which my heart just wants me to write but I’m procrastinating it until like just now.

This post is just going to be something that I’m going through personally and please do not have a judgmental mind because if not you will not see the lesson.

I’m going to break these into segments of my life, I’m not that old yeah……hahahaha……but kinda…..but who cares right

  1. Family

For me my family, teammates, colleagues, close friends come first then everything else. I value spending time with people more than just using my phone, but it must be someone I really love listening to their conversations. I felt something was not so okay with me and surprisingly everyone around me could also feel me the same. Dear reader, I do believe very much in vibes too, sometimes you just felt that person or being somewhere is not so right, I believe in that intuition. I wasn’t actually happy inside, I couldn’t love people fully, something was blocking me to shine fully. I spoke to my well-wisher, mentor, good friend and kinda my favorite person to talk to, as well I listen to him when he tells me to do something, do take note I’m not very easy person to follow what you say cause I have so much ego, but I’m learning to listen to people more.

That’s when I realized I’m just not moving on from my past life, I thought I was moving on but in fact I wasn’t, it means I’m still not accepting myself and what I did last time. That unacceptance is killing me inside and that’s why I couldn’t love people full-heartedly. Even though I learned and has practiced SIEP (refer to my previous blog to know what is this), I couldn’t do it. I met my mentor very long time ago about this and we spoke. I was feeling better, and now after 1 year it still come back. No matter how long I calm myself and take deep breaths or divert my attention to something else, it was draining me and that’s why I felt so energy less. It was like the moment I’m home, I just want to lie back. To overcome this whole drama, I thought the best way is to write about it and let it out as much as I can.

I realized one thing moving on is not something done theoretically, it’s an inside work, your entire mind, body and soul need to accept that incident full-heartedly, only then you will be the real you. Thank you Nature for showing this through one person. If you are also in this phase of your life, listen dear readers, you are far more powerful than you think you are now, you are capable and you deserve to see more beautiful opportunities in life. After all we are here to live life, not to regret life. Trust me, there’s so much positive and mind-blowing things waiting for you. Just take a moment with me to take a deep breath and calm your emotions…..1 deep breath……….2 deep breath………..3 deep breath…….Are you feeling better now?

Taking deep breath (Taken from Photo by Karolina Grabowska from Pexels )

2. Work/Business/Employment

PHASE 1

I have heard people saying personal life and work life cannot come together, also I have seen people saying personal life and work life is actually one, you can’t separate them. BUT FOR ME, BOTH LIFE ARE THE SAME because myself is the same.

I actually was making huge decisions in my life few weeks and months back. After talking to my mentor and well-wisher, I made the decision. He asked me this ” Is this what you really want to do or are you competing with someone else? Be truthful to yourself”

That strengthen my heart and I took the decision to follow my heart. Even though at first it looked so alien and felt abit awkward. It just felt so me, I love to take things in charge and try out new things and serve people through my service, that makes me really happy. With the decision being made, I spoke to my leader (current employer) who inspires me in the work he does every single day. He’s one of the person who loves accounting, auditing and taxation, he just do it with so passion. I was finding someone like this for so long. He listens to my goals and dreams, I said I’m going to resign the job very soon because I want to do something on my own, he didn’t stop me but gave me a piece of advice because he cared about me, he said you are really good at this then why are doing something else. I told 1 thing only, this is what my heart wants, then he suggested me this which is why don’t you work for 2 days then the rest of the days you work on whatever you want to work on. You will not believe this that this was one of the goal I planted in dark which is to work lesser in a company as well as work in the part which I love rather than the entire process.

I took few days to think and finally I accepted, because to guide students or create awesome videos, I do need the practical experience. I spoke to him back and not very soon this is going to happen.

I thought this transition would be easy, but it is not as easy as I thought, now I don’t have fixed income, I do have but lesser now, however this is so much exciting and makes me to wake up in the middle of night as well as in the morning to think how to generate income from the skills and the services I have. I started thinking like an entrepreneur. And I loved it. The journey won’t be so easy but it would definitely be worthwhile. I just need to have fun and keep hustling. “Life is so beautiful”

PHASE 2

I’m actually working on a client’s account by my own, which means with least supervision from my leader. That means you need to think and make most of the decisions on your own. And that’s exactly what I’m , I love the freedom of making decisions. So this was the situation, the job was getting very delayed due to previous year accounts. And I will also accept my mistake, it was my first time taking a job with my full freedom, so I actually freaked a little but I tried my best. However, I didn’t do a good job with the accounts as the auditor started to ask me what kind of accounts is this and things like that. I had to manage my client, auditor as well as myself. Luckily I didn’t cry……hahahaha…..I do this when the scenario around me is uncontrollable or if I can’t find a solution.

I would just need to be grateful to the nature to give such great client and auditor because they helped me to figure this out and I said I will take the blame and get this things figure out. The most important part is the “satisfaction of the client”, that’s all I need. My mentor and leader say clients are the most important people in any business, say it product-based or service-based.

DON’T AIM FOR PERFECTION, AIM FOR PROGRESS.

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I guess that’s all my heart want to share. Till then take care and have a great day ahead.

With Love,

Crazy Geek Team

WHAT IS ONE THING THAT YOU WOULD WANT TO CHANGE IN YOUR LIFE?

I want to ask you something. If you could change one thing in your life, what would you change? It can be any type of change. Maybe you want to have a healthiery diet. Maybe you want to spend some time for yourself. Maybe you want to be able to swim. Imagine that there is no limit to what you could change about your life. Well, what would that change be?

Here is where my head is at right now for that change.

If I could change one thing about my life, I would focus more on the art of ‘Overthinking’. I’ve come to the conclusion that it is probably one of my more hard-hitting habits. To this day, overthinking is something that I deal with on occasion and it shouldn’t come as a surprise. As much as we like to see ourselves in a positive light, we’re pretty quick about demoralizing ourselves. Usually, I’ve jumped to conclusions quickly and sometimes those conclusions are thoughts that drag me down. That’s the ‘3 am’ horror zone of me overanalyzing every aspect of my life. I’m sure those who are in my shoes, you could feel me deep. Here are the few ways that I’ve made myself to stop overthinking.

One suggestion I’ll make is using logic and putting things into perspective. I like this mainly because I’m a logical type of thinker. No one said it better than Marcus Aurelius in Meditations, “Our life is what our thoughts make it.” I believe in that. I need to have a reason behind my actions and they’re typically deeper-rooted. It really helps me because more often than not I’ve realized that making a huge deal over something small. This method is a way of catching myself to realize there is a pattern. Because like I said, overthinking is a habit. And once I catch myself enough, my brain automatically catches the vibes too. Isn’t sound cool? It is . For example, during times of stress or worry, I reassure myself and remind me of one thing, “I wouldn’t be doing this unless I have a logical explanation for going ahead.” This shuts down my overthinking because I know things will be alright. And if for some chance I make a mistake or fail, I usually learn something from the experiences.

Furthermore, I wasn’t ready to be lost in negative thoughtss habits, but the probability increasesmultiplied each time when I haven’t had a proper sleep. Somehow, we tend to neglect this factor, but definitely shouldn’t. I was unable to think as clear as I usually I do and what to say about all those thoughts running aaround and aaround in my head. Here is how I ensure my proper quality of sleep and as I’m a sleepy head that makes methis literally to take anmeans double extrathe effort to work on it. Forcing myself to sleep when I’m not sleepy is a bad idea. Don’t feel sleepy? I’ll just keep myself busy withcatch-up on my readings to put me calm myin mind before knocking completely dozing off. I have no idea how it works for me, butme but miraculouslytrust me it works this way. Not forgetting with my earphones nearby listening to my kind of lullaby before bed. They played a very good role into putting me into sleep much calmer and better withinto all my sweet dreams however loud the nature white noise is. “Your future depends on your dreams, so go to sleep.” – Mesut Bara zany

Besides that, I should say this one is the hardest for me personally. I do try to spend my time and put my energy in the present moment. Unfortunately, I have to say I’ve failed so many times. Overthinking the past moments which will never come back or worrying about the possible future is the most common and unavoidable thing ever. That’s not my style either. I just can’t fool myself like that. Well, I’ve decided to let go of every thought in my mind. Doing something I actually like no matter what, how small or big. I genuinely enjoy it. Listening to music, aerobics, or spending time with family and friends. As I realized later on, how much it means a lot to me. That point of time I don’t think about my goals, failures, or the things I have to do tomorrow. I’m just here. Right now. At this very moment. Temporary escape from reality will do. Just like the moment you’re taking to read these words. Are you with me?

These are the best I could get myself on track to avoid thinking too much. A good going personally by working this way out my scrabble mind. However, overthinking has also caused me to come to a lot of good conclusions in my life too. Not every overthought was an issue that was never there to begin with. Do you agree? Whether this is in regards to education, jobs or relationship just remember that your thoughts are your mediators and also your peacekeeper. So, you may be wondering when I’m ever going to get to the point of ‘why overthinking is an art’. Maybe it’s an art because individually, we are all able to have such vivid and creative imagination or simply just the art of conjuring up problems that were actually never there to begin with.

In a nutshell, whatever your thoughts are about, it has always been you and only you that can decided whether you will let them get the best of you or make them the best you. However, I felt from the changeover of myself with those efforts I’ve taken to bring me peaceful mind. Overthinking is draining, but it is also helpful in determining how much you are going to let your mind control your happiness and peace. Don’t stop thinking but not overthinking. Let go of all your thoughts about yesterday that is never worth your precious time. A very special piece for my dear overthinker’s. Wake up, startup fresh! Wishing you always the best. Enjoy every moment in your life. “The beginning of freedom is the realization that you are not the possessing entity — the thinker.”

Written by: Laavanyah

With Love, Crazy Geek Team