Have you ever wondered if you are an introvert or extrovert or is there such a thing as purely introvert or purely extrovert? Why does this personality scale exist? These are questions that flashes through when I ponder about it. There have been various understandings on these personality scale. Introverts being someone who tends to recharge or rejuvenate themselves by spending time alone, meanwhile extroverts are energized by being around people.
When you google, introverts are characterized as someone who prefers enjoying their time alone after a busy day, a person who like to get lost in their own thoughts or even someone who prefers having their own space to process and think through any information. On the other hand, extroverts are more social and outgoing. They prefer being surrounded by people and being center of attraction at times. Besides, they also love doing lots of talking.
Can knowing a person as introverted or extroverted help in relationships? What if they are neither introvert nor extrovert? I grew up in a house full of people with my cousins, uncles, aunts and my brother. It was about 20 of us in that house when I was young. Sometimes, the drove me crazy because every morning we are up by 5.30am just to queue to take baths and pitch in for my mom to prep breakfast for everyone.
At times, the house is just too noisy that I would be looking for a quiet space just to be with my thoughts or to even read a book and get lost in the story lines. Those are some best days as those books bring you through various adventures one may not have imagined. Sometimes, those quiet moment will vanish in quick seconds because some of my cousins would drag me out just to play cards, cycling or even for a badminton match.
I would be cursing them for dragging me out of my “alone time”. Now, looking back at those memories, I loved when they dragged me out for a game. I enjoyed those noisy moments screaming “GOAL!” when your favorite World Cup team scores in the middle of the night. We would have two team spilt up and betting on pizzas and nuggets.
So, let me ask you again now! Am I an introvert or an extrovert or an ambivert? Human’s personality is complex. We can neither label or judge a person based on assumptions. Some may have partial traces of introverts and some partially extroverts but we can never identify someone as complete introvert or extrovert. Most of us are ambiverts – the in between of introvert and extrovert.
We should always respect an individual for who they are and give them the opportunity to show you who they are. They might amaze you. “The absolute worst thing you can do with either type is using a single word to define your approach.” Understanding the tendencies of ourselves and others is just the beginning. Effective communication is the key for all relationships whether be it parents, friends, colleagues or partners
If we focus on simply being extremely aware of which type, we’re dealing with, noticing small behaviors that point us more in the extroverts or introvert’s direction, then we’ll be easily on the right track to dealing with people in the right way.
Happy Day dear readers, I’m back to blogging again after some time. It’s my heart wanted me to write this blog post, I’m just super excited to share my journey of gaining confidence in everything I do (be it performing tasks at my workplace, working with my freelance clients, conducting interview sessions with professionals & students, liaising with newer people for new projects, writing blog posts, uploading Youtube Videos in my channel and guiding students for their exams).
Dear beautiful readers, allow me to share a little flash back about myself who was this very unconfident teenager who never speaks what I feel since school time. Schooling period was something I enjoyed being accompanied myself, I’m the kind of teenager that doesn’t even speak to the person who is next to me unless they start the conversation with me. This was me for quite a number of years until I graduated from my secondary school.
I started to speak up when I was in tertiary education (college period), but that was also within my teammates and friends who I’m comfortable with. To increase my confidence, I joined some clubs in my college so that I will not be so awkward when talking to someone new. I made good friends, however, I was still lacking confidence in giving presentations or talk shows out there when all the eyes from the public is focusing on us.
One of the best part of my life was meeting these group of entrepreneurs in Malaysia (my home country) called ET Ideas. These people were crazy and happy people, I really like being around them, their vibes are extremely positive and happy all the time. Each of them pursue the goals their heart wants and be confident at whatever they do even it was something you will come across in life, for example doing Henna Art for Bridals as a full time job. Without me realizing, I was naturally becoming someone who I always wanted to be which means sharing my knowledge or experience which I have with outsiders, complete strangers and unknown people. I was super confident when I share about myself, I guess it’s just the vibes being around them. I continued to do every task as if I already knew how to do it.
Let me stop how I started my journey from being the not so confident person until a little confident person. To make this blog post more exciting, I’m going to share in the perspectives of students, fresh graduates, entrepreneur and employees based on my experience. But guys, I’m still learning to be better every single day, still long way to go.
Students
Since I’m also an ACCA Tutor guiding students for their exams in F8 – Audit and Assurance & P7 – Advanced Audit and Assurance, I wanted to focus on these type of students.
How are you going to gain confidence before sitting for the exam? I’m very sure many students are having this in your mind right now.
Trust me for any kind of exam you are sitting, it is all about how’s your mindset when you are doing your exams –> Were you confident or were you so scared during the entire exam?
Few things I did when I was sitting for exams, this might or might not help you, apply which suits you, maybe just pick one and apply directly at the moment.
Make sure I have done my full revision 3 days before the exam date.
One day before the exam, I will take a piece of clean white paper and write down whatever I can remember from the syllabus starting from the keywords, marking scheme and weaknesses of each topic I have.
Talk to someone who can boost your confidence up and share your feelings with regards of the exam.
Two days before the exam, grab some popcorn and watch your favorite movie (for me is always 3 Idiots), if you haven’t watched it, please go and watch it. There are so many lessons for you to learn.
My Graduation Picture with Mom
FRESH GRADUATES
I have been in your shoes too, let me share my experience when I was a fresh graduate looking for a job. Let me share my second job interview which I’m still working at currently but now as part time accountant.
I still can remember very clearly on the interview day, I told to my employer what I wanted to be in few years time. He shared about the expectations that he was looking from me and I also told what was my goal which was to be an entrepreneur in this field very soon. That was the first time he said, wowwww, that’s an awesome goal. Dear fresh graduates, remember even if you feel you are not there yet, putting yourself out there to your employer your bigger goals will give him some confidence in you that you will be able to do the tasks. Speak up based on heart, and that is what I always do at my workplace, if you feel this is not right, speak to your superior and let him/her know why are you viewing like this and ask for their opinions on why is this being done in such way.
EMPLOYEES
Work from heart guys…..hahahaha……Choose what you love having fun at, then choose that as your career, naturally you will be so confident in that field. If you haven’t figure it out like me initially, it’s okie keep doing whatever you are doing, by being patient also you can gain confidence in yourself.
Apart from doing my tasks at my work, I also view on how I can add value to the firm I’m working at, for example, I realised the firm I was working at doesn’t have a professional website, then I suggested to my employer to do a website for their firm and guess what he approved and I was so excited to work on that project from planning and getting the vendor to do the website. Trust me I’m not so good in all of this but I just wanted to add value to the company I was working at, I slowly started to be more confident in sharing my viewpoints with my employer. However, I was very fortunate to have such leader who patiently listen to my ideas. Slowly, he empowered me to do what I love apart from working in his firm.
Confidence always is within yourself guys, don’t find somewhere else. hahahaha…… I slowly begin to understand this.
Confident picture of mine!!!!
Entrepreneurs
Based on my opinion, I feel being entrepreneur means you are confident because taking the decision itself needs a lot of courage and guts because you are now under control of you own.
No more waiting for your monthly salary from your employers or orders from them anymore. You need to do it by your own. Not everyone can also be an entrepreneur.
The first mindset that needs to build is the confidence. I’m able to do what I love to do confidently.
Maybe I can share what I do every morning the first thing I wake up which is repeating my goals and reading my goal card. Doing that itself helps me to get the boost for myself.
I’m currently in this stage as I always wanted to be one, but I only have read and listen to other entrepreneur. Now, it’s time for me to apply what I have learned so far. One of the most important thing that I’m being confident at is sharing about my services to others. So how this happened is I always occupied myself with people who are confident and watch videos about being confident (& apply on the spot) if not I’m just accumulating more theory in myself.
I will share about my journey of being an entrepreneur in coming blog posts.
Thank you for reading this far. Hope this helped you in some ways.
What makes someone a creative person? For most us, the first thing that comes to mind is arts. You don’t have to be an artist to work on something in an artistic element. Creativity isn’t limited to artistic types. It is a skill that anyone can nurture and develop. Every person can improve their creative thinking skills. By doing so, it helps you create, interpret, and come up with solutions to challenge your daily life routines at schools, university, organization or simply at home. So how do you make creativity part of your daily life?
I have always loved reading not only because it is fascinating, yet I could step into another world. Entering a new realm, I knew I could count on my imagination to take me to places only one could dream of. I’ve been to a few of the places just to explore more about it. Am I sounding creative enough? Reading enhances imagination which is an important part of life not only for children, adults especially fellow readers. I could able to develop my writing skills as well as I do write for blogs with all the understandings that blooms from my magical thinking. So relatable with the sayings “The more you read, the more things you will know. The more that you learn, the more places you’ll go”- Dr. Seuss
Besides, being a student sometimes the same old study methods just don’t cut it anymore. As I find it boring and falling asleep. You could feel me? Let’s look at the creative studying idea I’ve tried to make the process more enjoyable and to be a better student. One of the easiest to draw or make colorful notes of each lesson I’ve learned. Never thought I would aspire by my own skills on arts to make it out my cute notes. This tactic works for a variety of subjects, even you’re not artistically inclined as long you got what you’ve made from your understandings. Mostly needed to revise for examinations. Definitely helps, one way to make your revision easier and clear. As it increases my retention thoroughly. You can really try this out. May it bring out every result in flying colors as the notes. *fingers crossed*
Well, any intern here? If yes! How do you find your days going? Referring to myself, wasn’t that excited to get in on my first day. As the days passed, I’ve decided to add value to the organization, whereby your skillsets should reflect which could help the organization. Need not necessarily be derived from your formal subject of study. Most importantly, add value to yourself. I’ve taken the opportunity to enhance what I’m good at and learning new skills! Apart from that, I’ve started observing the softer side of things. For example, getting to know among the colleagues, work ethics and work culture etc. Do not set limits on yourself, as I’ve always carried myself with “can do” attitude.
This is easier said than done, so here’s how my creative mind works on weekends. “Time is what we want most, but what we use worst.” – William Penn. Weekdays are so hectic that we can’t gather to spend some family time. My best idea was to look out for outlets nor restaurants more likely to food hunts. As we family our likings are in common to go for with the excitement and passionately to try out something new in cuisines. Not forgetting our very much scheduled micro-adventures, something we haven’t made in a long time. Since pandemic hits us unfortunately, we’ve start cooking’s and baking’s together with new recipes to taste just for cravings satisfaction. Foods are very special to bring us back together for a longer time to spend. A lovely family time can be cherished and to plan more.
Despite pandemic, I’ve never stopped my aerobic lessons because dance it has been always my passion. How useful can I make it happen by just by doing it all alone?! Nahh! That’s where my family joined me during the allotted time, we have now more than before. I’m glad in a way, as I’m able to spend more time at home with them and pull off a good workout’s routine together with the extra giggles and wiggles that is much needed for us. If a physical activity does this for you, then make it an important part of your weekends with a bit of effort which leads to healthy living and happy being. Even happier with your loved ones.
There’s more on how I made my days with creativity I had in mind and glad to share few of them. My not so little sharing yet something to venture through. Here’s how I’ve made my routines more colorful, cheerful, and meaningful as I age. It is all about exploring yourself in other perspective. Have you ever thought how creative you could be or do to make your day? If no, not too late to work on what’s best for you and to make it happen. Be happy in whatever you’re headed to. As we’re totally in new norm why not give it a try something creative to make-up your dull days and set free through the process. As the sayings, “Creativity is seeing something that doesn’t exist already. You need to find out how you can bring it into being and that way be a playmate with God” – Michele Shea.
It’s so difficult to describe depression to someone who’s never been there, because it’s not sadness. I know sadness. Sadness is to cry and to feel. But it’s that cold absence of feeling — that really hollowed-out feeling.”
J.K. Rowling
Depression can affect the quality of life and satisfaction of the people living with depression and life alteration. It’s also a fairly common condition. Every year, approximately 15 million Americans are affected by anxiety and depression, according to the Anxiety and Depression Association of America. Even if you’ve had a previous episode of depression, it may be possible to prevent it in some cases. To prevent or avoid depression, you can implement a variety of lifestyle changes and stress management techniques. Certain triggers can cause us to go through depressive episodes. While everyone’s triggers are different, these are some of the best techniques for preventing or avoiding depression relapse.
If you don’t make time for exercise, you’ll probably have to make time for illness.”
Robin Sharma
First, we should regularly exercise. Regular exercise is one of the best things for your mental health you can do. According to the Mayo Clinic, exercise can be used in several key ways to treat and prevent depression because it has many benefits such as it increases the temperature of your body, which can calm the central nervous system, it releases products that can boost mood, such as endorphins and it reduces chemicals that can exacerbate depression in the immune system.
Every kind of physical practice can contribute to the treatment of depression, but exercise regularly is best. Join a sports team or a study (such as yoga or kickboxing), where you are active as well as part of a community. Instead of the lift, take the stairs. Make it a habit and this is the best way to maintain the fitness level that prevents depression most effectively.
If any of the great avatars – Buddha, Jesus, Krishna, Mohammed – were present in human form on this planet today, what would they be doing? I doubt they would be posting selfies
Anthon St. Maarten
Next, reducing the time spending on social media. Research has shown that Trusted Source can cause or contribute to depression and low self esteem through increased use of the social media. Social media can be addictive and it is important to keep in touch with family, friends and even coworkers. This is how we plan to invite and share big news. Limiting time in social media can help prevent depression.
You can do this by removing some social applications from your phone using web blocking extensions which allow you to use specific sites only for a predetermined time and only to social media to prevent depression and by avoiding logging on a few occasions a day. For example, I feel more peaceful and relaxing when I am away from social media which will make us to compare our lives with others.
My mother used to tell me that when push comes to shove, you always know who to turn to. That being a family isn’t a social construct but an instinct.
Jodi Picoult
Thirdly, establish strong links with trustworthy close circles. It is important for our mental health to have a strong support and active social life. Research has shown that trustworthy sources can protect them from depression by even “sufficient” social support.
Make sure you connect with your friends and family regularly, even though your lives are busy. You can all help to build new relationships by attending social events and by finding new hobbies to meet new people. When u limit your social circle and surround yourself with those who will lift up you in life, your self esteem and confidence will boost . These will lead u to a successful pathway.
When people have no choice, life is almost unbearable … But as the number of choices keeps growing, negative aspects of having a multitude of options begin to appear … the negatives escalate until we become overloaded. At this point, choice no longer liberates, but debilitates.
Barry Schwartz in Paradox of Choices
Next, Make daily choices minimized. Have you ever entered a theme park and been overwhelmed by the first thing you want to do? Researchers believe that too many options can actually lead to major stress, which can lead to depression. The author of the book “The Paradox of Choice,” the psychologist Barry Schwartz describes research that shows that those who seek the best option — “maximisers,” face greater depression rates when faced with too many choices. All of us have a lot of options in our lives. What should we wear for breakfast, and should we buy yogurt, cheese, bagels, English muffins, or sausage? The stress of making the right or wrong decision has been linked to depression. Simplify stuff if making decisions stresses you out.
Learn to make decisions more efficiently, will the number of decisions you’ll have to make during the week, schedule your clothes, and have your meals prepared and ready to go, for example.
“Early to rise, early to bed, makes a man healthy, wealthy, and dead.”
James Thurber, American Cartoonist
“When the going gets tough, the tough take a nap.”
Tom Hodgkinson, British Writer
Furthermore, get plenty of rest is the key. Both mental and physical wellbeing require enough high-quality sleep. According to the National Sleep Foundation, people who suffer from insomnia are ten times more likely to experience depression than those who sleep well. You can’t look at any screens for two hours before bed (including your phone!) if you want to sleep better. Aside from that, meditate before going to bed, sleep on a supportive mattress, and avoid caffeine after 12 p.m. Sleep will help people with their issues, and a good night’s sleep can make you feel better. Deep slumber provides u deep solution when u wake up the next morning.
“If you don’t build your dream, someone else will hire you to help them build theirs.”
Dhirubhai Ambani, founder, Reliance Industries
Business opportunities are like buses, there’s always another one coming.” – Richard Branson
Last but not least, stress and depression can be overcome by engaging yourself in a business field. These will give you courage to succeed in life and avoid all the negativities that brings u down. From my perceptive, I would say business lifestyle will give you an extraordinary exposure where you will get to meet new people and this will make you come out of the small minded which lead to depression. You will get witness how successful people are living in this world with beautiful goals and dreams . Therefore, find a right business opportunity and start commencing it.
To sum up the point, business opportunities will give you great turning point in your life which will change the way you speak, the way you think and the way you see this world. From here, your social circle will be surrounded by only quality circle of people which is a sign that positivity is surrounded in form of people and you can feel the vibes.
We live in the 21st century, where children at the age of 2 surprise me with their capability of handling smartphones. With the era of globalization, everything seems one click away. Exponential growth is seemed as the only growth worth noting. Let it be in professional or mental growth. Although we’re swimming in a pool of data that offers abundance of information, it does not equate to knowledge or wisdom acquired.
Even with all these developments and information on the all creations that can shape us in every which way, we are primarily brought up by ‘Our Social Norms’. Yes, I believe that Social Norm differs from person to person, depending on their culture, family, race and community.
According to the Stanford Encyclopedia of Philosophy, Social Norms is the informal rules thatgovern behavior in groups and societies. Simply said, “what is generally accepted”. How we are nurtured, does not only depend on the parenting we received as a child but what we are exposed to growing up and who we surround ourselves with through the lifetime.
To put this into context, if someone were to grow up in a household that practiced only the mother to do all the house chores even though both are working parents and this is practiced through their social circles, the mindset of kids in the household might be tuned in a similar way. In future, the men might prefer and / or expect their wives to behave in a parallel mannerism and the women would willingly do the same without questioning.
On top of this, it is highly likely that as this is the social norm they have been exposed to consistently, it will remain as the right way in their opinion. Though we can always argue that living in the world of internet, we are exposed to a wider range of social circle. It is no more just the people we interact with in real life. Virtual interactions are more often tend to hold a significant place in shaping a person’s social norms.
In accordance to Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs, one of human’s basic psychological needs is belongingness. As such, we, human beings crave being accepted. Hence, no matter where you are physically, we will seek for like-minded people to agree with our opinion and slowly grow their community bigger. In this process, how many are willing to listen to the parties that oppose their view?
Growing up in an Indian household myself, I developed with a very strict set of standards, morals and rules which I believed must be abide by with no excuses. The social norm I was exposed to were quite common for the middle-class Indian community living in Malaysia. So, in my eyes that is how I will be when I grew up. But somewhere along the way in my short life, without me even realising it, things started changing. My opinions waived quite a lot. I felt quite embarrassed on how I can’t stick to one side and decide who I want to be.
Looking back, I would honestly sit her down and thank her for not being too set in her own ways. As I believe the pivotal reason as to who I am today is because that girl listened and contemplated. When someone was to speak on a topic and I don’t agree with their view, instead of blocking it completely, I take my time to comprehend where they might be coming from. And as we have witnessed from time and time, an opinion is what molds the social norm. When opinions change, so does the social norm. As civilized individuals, it is our job to ensure it develops for the betterment of the society instead of hindering it.
Being young we are more open to discussions and new ways of looking at the world. As we grow older, as we gain a sense of self, we tend to be set in our own ways. And if you have taken the time to read till this part, all I encourage you to start doing is one simple thing, QUESTION EVERYTHING! Remember as growing into adulthood, we shape our social norm and how we shape it determines how the future is to be.
“The best way to predict the future is to create it. ~Peter Drucker, Management guru”
How can you be an amazing friend? One of the most important and formative types of relationship you will experience in a lifetime is friendship. I’m sure everyone of us lucky enough to experience the feeling of joy and happiness that comes from bonding with a real friend also being one either way.
Friendship is one of the best gift’s life has to offer. There is nothing on this earth more to be prized than true friendship
Thomas Aquinas
I’ve decided to blog on the beauty of being a friend and having a good friend which evolve a strong friendship in two-way street. The fact of the matter is we are all wired for meaningful relationships. Studies show if you have good friends throughout your life, you will live longer. There is a lot of truth behind the common saying, “In order to have a great friend, you must first be one.” So how can you learn to be a great friend? What does it take? Here are some qualities I’ll share to you readers which I’m applying as a friend. In turn, you’ll be teaching your friends how to become better ones.
Being a great friend to someone and having friends support your back is good for your wellbeing. But what, exactly makes a good friend? Check on them. How often you do that? As a friend, I’ve made sure they’re (friends) alright. It’s easy to go overboard, but when tactful it can mean the world to them when you show you’re concerned. Send them a text, a phone call (even better) or surprise them by showing up at their front door. Who doesn’t like surprises? If it’s me I would be jumping in joy *giggles*. Probably, that’s how I’ll turn up to my friends. It just means showing you want them to be ok. I’m pretty sure all of us done this at some points yet don’t just stop there. You can just text or call them right now, never know they needed you at this moment. I used to put on a brave face when I was going through rough times. It sucked but having good friends around who knew when I wasn’t really ok helped a lot. Just the matter of effort and the amount of care and concern you have for your friends.
Besides, always put in your best efforts. When they ask your opinion or help on something that means the most to them. It means they value what you think. Show them you’re as invested as they are. The best I could do as a friend to help them out, ask them what they really in need. So that I can offer them support in a way that’s genuinely helpful. It is good to be there for a friend rescuing them like the Superman during their tough times. Since young we’ve grown up watching the cartoons of our favorite that has always convey us to be a helping hand for someone right especially the SUPERHEROES been doing that in the concept for the loved ones. So why not? best childhood I had by learning to be a helping mind and surely you too. Friends are always a shoulder to cry on, am I right? No doubt about it. I believe friendship require a combination of trust, respect, love and emotional support.
“The strong bond of friendship is not always about giving and taking in equal shares. Instead, friendship is grounded in a feeling that you know exactly who will be there for you when in need something, no matter what or when”
Simon Sinek
“Don’t wait for people to be friendly. Show them how.” We need meaningful connections with other people. Not everyone has to be a close friend, but it’s integral to our happiness that we show people who we truly are, allow ourselves to know them in return, and then remind each other through actions, small or large that we care. After all, understand and respect boundaries. Know that you don’t have to be together 24/7. I need my space to recharge and I don’t always feel like hanging out with others. That doesn’t mean I don’t like them. Can you feel me? Anyone being in the same shoe? Good friends aren’t pushy and don’t get upset because of an occasional “no”. In fact, good friends know how to pick up right where they left off no matter how long it’s been since they last saw each other.
Personally, honesty hits a different perspective in every individual when it comes to any relationship especially in friendship. Being honest and constructive, speaking out keeping the promises and do what you say you’re going to do. Particularly, be reliable. Nobody wants to be friends with someone who lies. And lies always have a way of coming to the light, in me believe as well. Also, friends will say the truth to one another, even when it’s hard. The wisest man in the Bible: King Solomon, said – Faithful are the wounds of a friend, but the kisses of an enemy are deceitful. Prove yourself to be a trustworthy person who will guard all the sharing’s with your life. Friends come and go, but true friend sticks by you like family – King Solomon. Are you willing to be a friend like that? Of course.
Most of all, friendship entails reciprocity and respect. Without these two qualities, the relationship will be limited and fizzle over time. I don’t entitle myself as a great friend yet trying and still learning to be the best I could for my dearest friends whoever been there for me and being one too. Glad to have a bunch of them around me. How grateful are you to have great friends around? Appreciate them whenever its possible. It will definitely mean a lot to them as it is for us being one for them.
True Friends Helping Each Other to Grow
It takes a lot of work and commitment to be a great friend. TRUST ME!! That’s not easy to earn such long-term friendship within a night. But it is worth if your continuous efforts are there while building one with your friends. Keep in mind there are people all around you who are looking for friends. So, continue developing good friends if you have them in your life. And your life will be far better for it. True friends are like diamonds, precious but rare, false friends are like autumn leaves, found everywhere. Stick to the right one and build and friendship empire for yourself.
Before diving into my experiences with regards of this topic, I thought it would be fun if you (dear readers) take a moment to answer few questions to yourself, maybe you can write out or type it out too. First one is what is your favorite cartoon character when you were young, second question was it the same until now and the last question is do you believe that characters really do exist or it’s just a myth?
Do put some thoughts into it and answer truthfully to yourself, and yeah, this piece of writing is also about learning yourself.
Let me share with you few scenarios when I really experience that human beings do have power
When I met Ascendanceand ET Ideas (Like the Marvel Characters)
They share about things like believing in yourself, correcting yourself before changing the world in terms of your own thoughts, words and actions. Each one of the members they have powers and so do you and me (we all have our hearts) and from my little experience on this planet Earth, I felt our hearts is where we are going get our power. From them I learned something which is, following your heart is the most powerful tool you have and it really makes you so powerful in this world.
When I really started following my heart
I was in a full-time employment and that is not something my heart wants but I need to gain that experience for me to do what my hearts wants, even though I was very reactive in the beginning, now it has been 2 years passed and now I really take the guts to follow what my heart says which is entrepreneurship (something since young I adore). I really feel the power that lies deep within me when I started doing the things I love and doing from my own creativity. This is when I realized the cartoon characters that you liked when you were young is actually within you, you just need to follow what you are naturally good at, ie. Dancing, singing, teaching or even accounting (just do it) if you heart says so.
When I genuinely help people from my heart
I very much believe in human’s being vibrations, actually before meeting ET Ideas I never knew about what is vibrations or human actually emits vibrations which is now you know so called “the power”. Each of us vibrates in different speed and intensity based on our thoughts and many other elements that’s influenced it. When we repeat a thought very frequent enough, we will exit that powerful vibration to the world out there, so dear readers please start to send positive thoughts to the universe, the more frequent and intense it is, the more power you have to achieve that particular goal. So how does helping other people making you more powerful, I’m not very sure about others but for me, I really get more positive results in my life as I do better to the society be it just sending good thoughts, words and actions.
Without you being aware, each of us have our own powers within ourselves, it’s our responsibility to unveil what is it through the work and goals that we have set for ourselves.
Another one last thing that I wanted to share is the animation series I’m currently loving watching which is Avatar – The Last Airbender. Yes, many of you have watched but for me I think it’s the right time for me to watch as I experience life in a whole lot different level. From that series, the Avatar actually is the last person who can save the world and change the world for a better place. From the little series I watched, I learned one lesson which is we have powers within us and we need to dig it out to show the full potential of ours to the world out there.
Have a wonderful weekend dear followers and readers.
Unleash your powers that lies within you. Thank you reading all our piece of writing.
Why is empowering girls and women being so crucial? How does the sense of self-confidence, abilities to make your own choices and influencing social change for themselves and others empowers women? I’m already delighted and empowered to be given this platform to write, share and instill growth and empower others to bring about change. “There is no chance for the welfare of the world unless the condition of women is improved, it is not possible for a bird to fly on only one wing” – Swami Vivekananda.
I would say self-development and empowerment starts with you. As a young woman who has had to face the world while growing up, I have come to understand one thing, you alone as an individual can develop yourself, other people will come later on but it starts with YOU. In today’s generation where one wants to be validated by other people, we need to validate ourselves first. In early 20’s, I started looking at myself in the mirror and told myself I can do this, figuring out what to be in future, how to work on it etc. I work hard not to prove a point to anyone but because I knew what I wanted to be and love to do. Being a bookworm, I read more and more. I became my own friend; I studied hard and I spent most of my time doing what I love. I had people around me, but I did not allow them to influence any of my decisions. I kept my plans to myself as I strongly believe ‘actions speak louder than words’
Being a woman, I’ve becoming. To me the connection between writing and empowerment has always been an obvious one as I could relate myself that connects to my passion and goals. One of my passion came for real when I begin to write with the encouragement and guidance of another woman, dearest Lavannya she is. A hardworking senior, leader, sisterly friend I’ve came to know. Not forgetting, my fellow ladies working as a team special mention Ija, Loshinee and Ahgi. “In every successful man there is a woman behind.” Since I was born, I heard this saying. But is this, always right? Can’t it be the other way around. We’re a team in the name of ‘The Crazy Geek’ with one man show, dearest Kaarthik. He has been a great team member, a good friend, and the only thorn among the roses. A great support to all the ladies in the team. I’m glad I could develop my hidden skills and passion through this opportunity. A little sharing on how I develop my skills, self-confidence, and a steady mind to walk towards success in life.
The fact is that in several places it’s critical to empower ourselves, so we need support, guidance, and mentorship as a part of our start. This is not easy (specially to find a role model or mentor) if you have one, consider yourself lucky and if you don’t have one, never head down. We could always learn to be more cooperative and supportive of each other. I do believe that if we motivate each other, we can have better impact and make a change in life. It will sound very inspiring when you motivate yourself to fulfill your goals. Few good role models are born in local proudly I would say, whereby their achievements and unbreakable records are many that we’re celebrating till today. Our super ladies are Datuk Nicol Ann David, Michelle Yeoh, Datuk M.Rajamani and other inspiring women out there too. They are great leader to us who has reach success in their respective career. “There’s no limit to what we, as women, can accomplish”- Michelle Obama
Empowerment comes to us in two ways:
The access to external sources of inspiration and knowledge; and
Self-respect and self-confidence.
Harsha Ravindran, a young entrepreneur that aims to impact and bring about change to 1 million teens. Isn’t inspiring? Hell yes!!! She shares Business Insights in her book entitle, ‘The Makings of a Teenage Entrepreneur’. Personally, she inspires me too. So, what women entrepreneurs can do to boost your level of empowerment and reach our personal and professional potential? Recognize what knowledge and skills you lack and find tools and resources to increase your proficiency. This requires a commitment, honestly assessing your strengths and weaknesses.
Besides, align yourself with positive people (professionally and personally). I cannot emphasize enough how much this affects your morale and motivation. Chronically, negative people drain your energy and enthusiasm. When they direct their skepticism and sarcasm at you and your endeavors, they deplete your self-confidence and leave your feeling defeated.
Don’t be afraid to say ‘no’ or voice your position. Being outspoken, I’ve always spoken for the truth. I was spoon-fed by my dearest grandmother and mother mainly with all the love and strong words to face the reality bravely and to speak out my heart. That really makes me into a person I am today with good lessons and thoughts from them since young. I am truly blessed to have them. If people ask too much of you, learn to say ‘no’. Overextending yourself will create excess stress and pull you away from what really matters. Also, don’t be afraid to voice your opinion when you disagree adamantly about something. Although initially, you might meet criticism, in the long run, you’ll gain more respect. Most importantly, you’ll respect yourself and that is mission critical for feeling empowered.
Start the day on a note of gratitude. I make it a point to have a few minutes every day to consciously thinking about everything I have to be thankful for. What better way to get a positive start? It immediately puts me in the right frame of mind for dealing with whatever it is, and life will bring my way. I dare you to find an excuse as to why you can’t try this! “Whatever you fear most has no power, it is your fear that has the power”- Oprah Winfrey.”
Empowering women is powerful beyond measure and beautiful beyond description. Every programme is investing abundantly to encourage women to break free from their traditional roles and do away with gender stereotypes. So, its time to break barriers and explore alternative programmes for advocating them to the world of new era. Every women success should be an inspiration to another. “We’re strongest when we cheer each other on.” – Serena Williams. Dedicating this to all the women out there.
May we know them. May we be them. May we raise them.
Can you feel that your whole body system, mind and soul is at misalignment? For me, I could feel it until at one point of time I couldn’t take it. Again the illusion VS reality, I spoke to my mentor few days back that I’m being competitive and the urge for desires are increasing. Dear readers, this is something my heart wants to share at the middle of night, so yeah I’m writing this piece for you. Hope you will enjoy it and also do share it if you feel this should be known to others too.
stay connected to your soul
The conversations with my mentor was just through phone the day before I actually met him to speak about this. He as usual asked me few questions which jammed my subconscious mind and wakes my heart back. I will get into the details of the conversation later but what I thought I have mastered which is not being reactive when someone says I’m doing wrong or you’re doing a huge mistake; however, I realized it is still there. Actually it took for me a whole day to calm my emotions down to really accept what he told to me, it was like a war between my mind and my heart, I was keep on telling to myself accept it full-heartedly and don’t listen to your mind because it will only disturb you if you allow it only. So I made decision I accept what he said and there’s a lesson for me to learn from that experience (which is about my oneself).
The moment I accepted, I set meeting to meet my mentor, I must be very grateful that I still have someone to guide me even when I have been so in pride and ego back then, nature has been extremely kind to me. THANK YOU NATURE!!!!!
After my work is over, we went to a shop to have dinner and talk about these over the conversation. He asked me few questions;
Why are you doing so many things at a time?
Are you trying to show off to the place that you were once belong to and come back?
Are you being perfect?
Do you want to grow fast? But why?
Be Creative
I was really puzzled when he asked all these questions but one programming that was very strong with me is competitiveness, that started when my parents praised me that I’m doing better than my siblings until I went into work. So it is like almost 20+ years programming. I realized one lesson from talking to my mentor, you will never go anywhere competing with people, in fact actually the person who you are competing with is doing better because they are focus on the job and you are focusing on the competitions.
He also showed me few things which I myself couldn’t be aware of which is I was copying some other people’s ideas and doing that as if that’s my idea and working on it. When I really think hard, I realized that ohhhh yeahhhh, that is not my idea, I made a mistake now. You can’t grow if you copy someone’s idea, that is not the way.
After talking for 40 minutes, few lessons I learned from my mentor and currently start to apply one-by-one. It is definitely not easy but I’m not going to give up, after all we are living this one life.
Follow Your Heart – It will only ask to focus on 1 thing
Be Humble
Be Creative – come up with original idea
Have Kind Heart
Give first if you want something
In relationship, don’t have expectations with your partner
I guess it will also be applicable to you whether you are a student, professional or young adult, as long as you are a human, definitely you could connect well too.
Since even before the era of technology everything that was created comes with a set of operating manuals. Something to guide us through to ensure that the tasks we set out to do are successful. However, when it comes to life decisions, we don’t have any manuals. Human beings are raised and set out into the world with our knowledge, ethics and life lessons. But there is no set of instructions that will ensure that the tasks we set out to do in life will be a confirm success. In this piece we will see 3 areas of guidance – how I understand guidance, my experience and my realization.
Meaning – guidance is helping someone to achieve a goal that they had set out to be completed. Who is to give this guidance? A mentor – an experienced member who provides guidance and support to empower protégés to reach their goals, while a protégé is any member who seeks guidance and support from a mentor to reach their goals. This mentor-protégé relationship is often mutually beneficial. Both parties learn new ideas, see varying perspectives, and find new methods of approaching people, topics, and situations. Learning these new ways of thinking creates an opportunity for more self-awareness and insight into the way others think and helps each other grow. In the end, the protégé accomplishes their goal with the mentor by their side.
Experience – In my story as a protégé, my first mentor was my mother. Of course, this started off as her playing her duties as my mother to guide and support me when I embark on new challenges. But only during my college days I realized her role as a mentor. She was never hands-on, or assertive with her opinions. But I always knew she is there for me to turn to when I was in doubt. It was a unique experience. Because my goals were set based on my passion and drive and as a mentor she only gave me perspectives to see things. Slowly I comprehended the importance of her role. I was more grateful for her insights and sharing of her experience that paved my path. Sometimes, we just might be too close to see the big picture, and when guided properly to take a step back, the process gets easier. And just like that our focus could be realigned and we simply are one step closer to realize the goal set. I was lucky enough that I didn’t have to search far because I was born to my Mentor.
Realization – my realization of my mother being my mentor brought upon more awareness towards all the guidance we receive in life. We all can agree that learning and self-growth is a lifelong process John Henry Newman had put it so elegantly “Growth is the only evidence of Life”. For as long as we breathe, we don’t only grow in terms of career but also personally and even spiritually. In every part, we have someone to give us guidance and support. And it made me realize, that, as a protégé, I will always remain a protégé because when I set a new goal in an unchartered territory for myself, a mentor is who I would seek. And thus, it was clear. I will always be a protégé, even in the future if I were to be a mentor, I will still look for guidance when I am looking to grow myself. It is a fact that – A mentor is said to be most effective when they are also a protégé.
In conclusion, I would like to highlight that in life we all require guidance in one way or another, and when a mentor is in our corner we might not realize they are providing support and guidance for us to reach our goals. It is a simple matter that is so often overlooked. So, I would you to just take a moment to look back and also forward in our days to come and cherish those who have played mentor roles in our lives as well as to be conscious when you are being a silent mentor to a protégé. At the end of the day, the right guidance will empower you to be whatever you set out to become.
Oprah Winfrey once said, “A mentor is someone who allows you to see the hope in yourself” and I couldn’t agree more.
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